Shopping with my cute niece |
Family time |
Alex at protests |
When our time came to an end in Eskisehir, we started to drive towards the south-west to discover the Aegean cost of Turkey before meeting my wife’s parents in Side. Our first stop was Pamukkale. It is a natural wonder which contains travertines (terraces of carbonate minerals left by the flowing hot springs). It is a spectacular place with great views which cannot be missed if you visit Turkey.
Beautiful Pamukkale |
Magnificent Ephesus |
After some spectacular sightseeing, we drove to another coastal
town called Oludeniz (official translation Blue Lagoon) which is very close Fethiye.
This place became one of my favourite spots in Turkey. We checked into great
hotel called Vento Boutique Hotel, a lovely little guest house that provides warm Turkish hospitality. It is
an ideal place to relax and unwind. At night, we checked out Fethiye’s fish
markets where you can select different variety of fish and eat at one of the
local restaurants. Once again, we weren't disappointed with the food.
The next morning started early with a delicious breakfast at the hotel, followed by a peaceful swim
in the crystal waters of Oludeniz. Around midday, we started driving towards Side where we would meet Alex’s parents that night.
Fethiye Fish Markets |
Before reaching Side, we visited my uncle and his
family in Antalya. It was terrific to see them again after many
years. This trip became all about reconnecting with the family and I am very grateful for that. A major disadvantage of living in Australia is that we don’t get
to see our family very often.
Alex and I don’t really like staying in resorts as it makes it hard to experience the culture of the country we are visiting. However, this time we were catching up with our extended family including my my in-laws, my brother and his family. The week at the Hotel Otium Eco Club Side turned out to be an unforgettable family holiday.
This resort mostly caters for families with children. So, it was
perfect for my little niece, Lara. Our days were filled up with swimming,
tennis, beach volley, and water polo. The food in the open buffet was exquisite. At night, we watched exciting shows presented by different dance and
acrobatic groups. I was also happy to catch up with one of my friends, Murat, from the university years in Germany who now lives in Side. Many
thanks to Murat to show us the dynamic night life of
Side.
Mum's Birthday Party! |
Most of my time in Turkey was spent to reconnect with the
family and friends. I feel very fortunate to have such amazing people in my
life. I did not always have good relations with my family but in the recent
years, things have gotten much better. Family relations aren’t always easy to manage and they can be very challenging at times. You might even choose to emotionally cut off
from your family like I did many years ago.
Emotionalcut-off describes the way which people manage their unresolved emotional issues with other family members by reducing or totally cutting off emotional contact with them. A cut-off can happen through physical distance or forms of emotional withdrawal. Although the immediate pressure might be relieved by cutting off, the patterns of reactivity in intense relationships continue to be the same (Brown, 1999). Therefore, these unresolved issues or the patterns of reactivity repeat themselves in new relationships (Richardson, 1995).
My
personal experience is that cutting off from
family does
not really
solve any family problems. Through individual and group therapy over a
long time, developing awareness and accepting who I am, I managed to reconnect with my
family. It is continuous work which requires willingness, patience, forgiveness
and love. You can’t change your family. You can only change yourself
and through that everything around you changes. Put the effort in, you won’t
regret it.
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